THE GENDER TAG
1. How do you self-identify your gender, and what does that definition mean to you? I'm fluidgender. To me it's just who I am. It's not a thing I wave around. I do mention it, but for the most part, it's just a small part of who I am. I think my personality demands a hell of a lot more attention than my gender-identity.
2. What pronouns honor you? On the internet I use They/Them when it allows me to do so. But I was born with a penis and people tend to only think of me as a man, so I tend to let them. I fully understand I'm not helping things along by doing this and I should assert mt gender type, but I honestly don't think it worth the bother.
3. Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear. I wear T-Shirts and Sweatpants for the most part. At this time I don't own anything else. I've only dressed as a woman a couple times in my life and the clothing was loaned to me. I don't find presentation a big part of who I am, but for those who it is a big part of them, I full on support you.
4. Talk about your choices with body hair. How do you style your hair? Do you have facial hair? What do you choose to shave, or choose not to shave? I can't grow a beard to save my life so I keep clean shaven. As for my hair, I fucking hate my hair and chop it's ugly ass off every couple months. I can't stand long hair now that I've had it short for so long, or I'd probably be into experimenting with it now and then. As for "body hair" I just let it grow. Got to say as soon as I hit 50 my freaking pubes started to fall out. Another 5 or 7 years I won't have any. No idea what the hell.
5. Talk about cosmetics. Do you choose to wear makeup? Do you paint your nails? What types of soaps and perfumes do you use if any? I have put on lipstick on the past. I'm really bad at doing it however. I'd kind of like to have my nails painted by a friend one of these days. I've not done that since I dresses as a woman in the 90's. A friend did my makeup and it felt awesome to look pretty.
6. Have you experienced being misgendered? If so, how often? Almost no one on the planet who is not fluidgender gets it. Some days I feel full on male, sometimes full on female. I don't expect anyone to call me "her or she" when my brain decides I'm female for the day. So I guess it happens kind of often, but I just can't be bothered to try and correct people. I'm sure most would be confused or pissy if I did.
7. Do you experience dysphoria? How does that affect you? Not often, but I have many times over the 53 years I've been on the planet. The other day for example. It's a terrible feeling to not want to have the parts you have and I can see why people correct that. For me I seriously want to stay the way I was born and just go along with the flow of how I feel that day. I do Vlogs on YouTube and some people who watch can tell where I am on the scale by how I talk. At least they kind of get it.
8. Talk about children. Are you interested in having children? Would you want to carry a child if that were an option for you? Do you want to be the primary caretaker for any children you may have? I'm kind of glad I never had kids. My life is in the crapper and they would be carrying me by this point in my life and I would not like that. The other things is, by balls don't freaking work, so good luck with that. As for adoption, I guess if I ever had a partner that lasted longer than 3 months it would be a valid option. I'm kid of sure I'd have been good at raising a kid. But we will never know. As for actually being pregnant, if it was an option I think I'd enjoy that. Biological females have it up on my kind in that respect.
9. Talk about money. Is it important to you to provide for a family financially if you choose to have one? Is it important to you that you earn more than any partner you may have? Do you prefer to pay for things like dates? Are you uncomfortable when others pay for you or offer to pay for you? Money would be nice to have as I live on extremely little. However it's never been important to me. I'm sure if I had a family - partner and kids - I'd have worked with the sever pain I have trying to do a job, and provided what I could. But being there is no reason to suffer, I don't. Now in the last 10 or 15 years, my disability is such I just can't possibly work. I would feel bad I was not providing for family.
10. Anything else you want to share about your experience with gender? It's a strange mix for me. Not knowing what tomorrow I will feel I am. I have to say that the term is way more diverse than the majority of people can understand. To be honest I don't expect people to get it. They don't live it, how can they fully understand? They can't. It's like I can't possibly put myself in the place of a minority I'm not part of. The best I could do is try to get it, but it is not fully possible. I expect and demand to be allowed to be me, but I can't expect understanding, just acceptance. If people don't accept it, it's 100% on them, not me or any of us.
2. What pronouns honor you? On the internet I use They/Them when it allows me to do so. But I was born with a penis and people tend to only think of me as a man, so I tend to let them. I fully understand I'm not helping things along by doing this and I should assert mt gender type, but I honestly don't think it worth the bother.
3. Describe the style of clothing that you most often wear. I wear T-Shirts and Sweatpants for the most part. At this time I don't own anything else. I've only dressed as a woman a couple times in my life and the clothing was loaned to me. I don't find presentation a big part of who I am, but for those who it is a big part of them, I full on support you.
4. Talk about your choices with body hair. How do you style your hair? Do you have facial hair? What do you choose to shave, or choose not to shave? I can't grow a beard to save my life so I keep clean shaven. As for my hair, I fucking hate my hair and chop it's ugly ass off every couple months. I can't stand long hair now that I've had it short for so long, or I'd probably be into experimenting with it now and then. As for "body hair" I just let it grow. Got to say as soon as I hit 50 my freaking pubes started to fall out. Another 5 or 7 years I won't have any. No idea what the hell.
5. Talk about cosmetics. Do you choose to wear makeup? Do you paint your nails? What types of soaps and perfumes do you use if any? I have put on lipstick on the past. I'm really bad at doing it however. I'd kind of like to have my nails painted by a friend one of these days. I've not done that since I dresses as a woman in the 90's. A friend did my makeup and it felt awesome to look pretty.
6. Have you experienced being misgendered? If so, how often? Almost no one on the planet who is not fluidgender gets it. Some days I feel full on male, sometimes full on female. I don't expect anyone to call me "her or she" when my brain decides I'm female for the day. So I guess it happens kind of often, but I just can't be bothered to try and correct people. I'm sure most would be confused or pissy if I did.
7. Do you experience dysphoria? How does that affect you? Not often, but I have many times over the 53 years I've been on the planet. The other day for example. It's a terrible feeling to not want to have the parts you have and I can see why people correct that. For me I seriously want to stay the way I was born and just go along with the flow of how I feel that day. I do Vlogs on YouTube and some people who watch can tell where I am on the scale by how I talk. At least they kind of get it.
8. Talk about children. Are you interested in having children? Would you want to carry a child if that were an option for you? Do you want to be the primary caretaker for any children you may have? I'm kind of glad I never had kids. My life is in the crapper and they would be carrying me by this point in my life and I would not like that. The other things is, by balls don't freaking work, so good luck with that. As for adoption, I guess if I ever had a partner that lasted longer than 3 months it would be a valid option. I'm kid of sure I'd have been good at raising a kid. But we will never know. As for actually being pregnant, if it was an option I think I'd enjoy that. Biological females have it up on my kind in that respect.
9. Talk about money. Is it important to you to provide for a family financially if you choose to have one? Is it important to you that you earn more than any partner you may have? Do you prefer to pay for things like dates? Are you uncomfortable when others pay for you or offer to pay for you? Money would be nice to have as I live on extremely little. However it's never been important to me. I'm sure if I had a family - partner and kids - I'd have worked with the sever pain I have trying to do a job, and provided what I could. But being there is no reason to suffer, I don't. Now in the last 10 or 15 years, my disability is such I just can't possibly work. I would feel bad I was not providing for family.
10. Anything else you want to share about your experience with gender? It's a strange mix for me. Not knowing what tomorrow I will feel I am. I have to say that the term is way more diverse than the majority of people can understand. To be honest I don't expect people to get it. They don't live it, how can they fully understand? They can't. It's like I can't possibly put myself in the place of a minority I'm not part of. The best I could do is try to get it, but it is not fully possible. I expect and demand to be allowed to be me, but I can't expect understanding, just acceptance. If people don't accept it, it's 100% on them, not me or any of us.
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